Love and Marriage vs. Life Challenges

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Three years ago I committed my life to this beautiful woman and our life together as husband and wife started off in the best possible way. We were in love. Our kids loved each other. We had good paying jobs. We had an amazing wedding surrounded by our family and friends, and then headed off on a dream honeymoon.

Anyone with half a brain knows that life will throw challenges at you and your marriage. But despite that, there is nothing that can really prepare you for those challenges or how to handle them when they occur. God knows, we didn’t fully realize what was ahead of us.

We’ve had a lot of AMAZING things happen to us and so many good memories that have been made. But challenges have come whether we liked them or not.

Over the past three years we’ve dealt with job losses (hers last year, mine this year), job changes (4 for her, 2 for me), credit card bills that got out of control, crazy rent increases, my autistic son moving in/starting college, and my depression rearing its ugly head once more. This is all on top of the regular challenges that affect every marriage.

CHALLENGES SUCK.

But today as I reflect on the past 3 years as a married couple (4 years as a couple), I’m not reminded of the bad. I see the woman who has stuck by my side and continued to love me, truly for better or worse.

I know living with me is no cup of tea everyday, but she still chooses to do it.
She still does it with a smile on her face and love in her heart.

She does it when she makes silly faces or belts out some tune off-key.

She does it when she cleans dishes or makes a meal.

She does it when she holds me and says that everything is going to be alright, even thought it feels like the world is crumbling around us.

She has placed her absolute faith, trust and love in me and believes in me when I don’t even believe in myself.

Sometimes, I question why (because my mind is whack like that) but I just try and accept/appreciate the fact that she does, and hasn’t failed to in the 4 years we’ve been together.

8 years ago I saw the movie Juno and came to love the following line…

“Look, in my opinion, the best thing you can do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you, the right person is still going to think the sun shines out your ass. That’s the kind of person that’s worth sticking with.”

I had wondered if it was possible to find a person like that, or if it was another movie fairy tale.

Today I realize it’s no fairy tale and I’ve got that kind of person.

So today I say to the woman who is still just a beautiful today as she was 4 years ago. Thank you.

Thanks for choosing me to be your husband.
Thanks for loving me as much as you have and continue to.
Thanks for sticking by me and continuing to believe that the “sun still shines out my ass”.

Happy Anniversary Honey. Here’s to the rest of our life.

I love you Jennifer Lynn Tellez. Yesterday, Today and Always.

Happy New Year!!!

So I hoped to do some blog posting over my holiday vacation but I actually managed to stay off a computer the majority of my time off, and spent time with family and friends. I especially got to spend some great quality time with my son Josh.

We hung out, we did shopping, we played video games and even made cookies for Santa. I’m bragging here, but I gotta say I’ve got a great kid. Smart, friendly, loving, caring, fun and just all around awesome.

While Christmas is my all time favorite holiday, I do love starting a new year. It’s a time to look back at where you’ve been and a time to get excited about and plan ahead for the future.

For me 2008 was a year that I faced a lot of challenges.
Emotionally, Physically, Professionally, I dealt with them all.

In the end I was able to come out on the other side and say “I did it!”. Of course I did it with a great deal of help from God, family, friends, co-workers and all those in between who either brightened my day with a smile, or gave me the positive feedback or push I needed to press on.

In thinking about everything in 2008 the following from “Grey’s Anatomy” really hit home for me.

We enter the world alone and we leave it alone and everything that happens in between we owe it to ourselves to find a little company.

We need help.

We need support.

Otherwise we’re in it by ourselves.

Strangers.

Cut off from each other, and we forget…

Just how connected we all are

So instead,

WE CHOOSE LOVE

WE CHOOSE LIFE

And for a moment…

We feel just a little bit less alone.

I of course choose love, and I choose life. I am so blessed to be surrounded by so many people that make my life anything but lonely.

So now it’s time to look forward to a brand new year. A new year that’s filled with promise & hope.
To help kick off this new year I thought I’d share this great video filled with inspirational speeches from various movies.

May it inspire you, like it inspires me, and may your 2009 be a great one!